One nation under Goddess: Why I can’t worship a man

I love my husband, my son, my father, all the men in my life. But I can’t deify them.

Yet isn’t that what we do every day? 

I have some very close gentile friends who are devout Christians and wonderful people. And it irks me to no end when they talk about “His will for me.” Why not G-d’s will? Or the Creator’s will? Because as long as “He” continues to permeate our mainstream vernacular, we will not be equal. 

A patriarchy wrote a holy book to solidify the institution. The Bible has done a bang-up job of perpetuating it. How can we be equal when male = godliness and female = helpmate?

One of my dearest friends once told me about a program at her preteen daughter’s school called The Brotherhood. I expressed concern that the girls might feel left out. She assured me that “brotherhood” didn’t really mean only boys, that people consider it gender neutral. 

Really? Which people? I’m betting they are male. And even if girls don’t consciously feel excluded, the subconscious effect of brotherhood as gender neutral could have a long-lasting impact on girls’ confidence and feminine pride.

But “he” is just a generic pronoun, some say. 

No, it’s not. No more than “she” is generic to men. 

When I say goddess, there comes the eye rolling and pronunciations of Wicca and dancing around a fire. But G-d is fine. The difference? Gender. 

But G-d has no gender, you say. 

My point exactly. Let’s go on the assumption that we had, whether still around or not, a creator. And let’s say we call that creator G-d. If G-d has no gender, then why does it matter what pronoun we use? Why can’t I say Goddess and have Her revered in the same way?

When half the world’s population is excluded from godliness, what can we do? It’s an uphill battle. 

When it comes to religious ramblings, all I can offer as credentials are my Hebraic studies minor (I’m a super Jew!) and an upbringing in a predominantly Jewish community. I’m lucky to be part of a religion that encourages discussion and dissection.

Until we really delve into the maleness of G-d, I don’t know how far we can get within a patriarchy that is literally worshipped. 

But I’m sure as hell going to try.

10 thoughts on “One nation under Goddess: Why I can’t worship a man”

  1. You are so right, iam not that into all that God stuff, but I remember all that stuff at school say god created man from his own image, why should god be a man or a woman. I believe that all women are beautiful and also equal, but that’s just my opinion and i know many that won’t agree with that. What would the world be like today if women was the ones in charge throughout history, well it’s my opinion that the world today would be a much better place to live and maybe just maybe there would be world peace if women ruled the world, but like I said that’s just my opinion x

    1. We’d sure like a chance to try, at least! I’m all for balanced – we are largely split male and female in this country. But I’m intensely curious about a matriarchy.

  2. I am self dedicated to the Goddess because I decided my God had to have tits! God/Goddess is all and everyone and everything and no thing so my image is of me not some bearded guy with a dick and balls. Goddess Bless America land that I love…

  3. Doesn’t G-d use masculine pronouns to refer to (him)self throughout the Torah, though?
    That said, “G-d is a spirit and has not a body like man”, so the whole thing’s pretty moot, really.
    But to quote someone utterly unreligious, “True courtesy calls you whatever you wish to be called.” Therefore, if I (a woman) were to choose to use masculine pronouns about myself, it would be polite for my acquaintances to go along with that. Therefore, if G-d (a spirit) uses masculine pronouns about (him)self, it is polite to go along with that. Especially since (he) is G-d.

    1. I’m not comfortable with the claim that G-d wrote the Torah. Men wrote the Torah, and we have proof that’s true. Some say Torah is the word of G-d; I say it’s the word of men. Our creator is not knowable to us; there is no gender. We debase the greatness by giving G-d a human gender.

      Or, a compromise, if we can’t make deity gender go away: Why can’t G-d’s gender be in the language of the beholder? If we were created in G-d’s image, then it makes sense for females to say She and males to say He. I think that’s fair. Just a thought.

      1. I see your point. Our perspectives differ in some areas, I guess.
        Hmm. Good idea. Since it would be rude to use “it”, then whatever each person is comfortable with seems a fair compromise.

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